Down In the Dumps

[Destina Faroda]

You would think I'd be happy.  The Steelers just won.  But  I just feel so and out of it that I feel like I'm in a state of paralysis or something.  I can't do anything.  Cant write, post.  I can't even come on AIM.  I haven't felt like talking to a lot of people for a while and the more I think about things, the less I want to do anything.

[ilpalazzo]

There is one way to solve that problem Tequila Part WOOWOO!!!!

[Sin Ominous]

Sometimes you just have to force yourself to socialize. Sometimes that's the only option for some people if they hope to get out of a funk or somesuch.

Case in point: my socially inept brother has recently been going to a Singles group back at my hometown's church. He may being going slow in moving onward with his life, but what he has forced himself to do hasn't impacted him negatively.

Also, I'm not so skeptical of parties like I used to, having been to two of Bobby's parties this semester. As long as it's not crowded, isn't deafening, and is laid-back and social, I dig it.

So yeah. Sometimes you have to say "fuck you" to your own will, throw caution to the wind, and just go out and do stuff. I know I've met more people on campus when I get out of the room every now and then.

[Darkmoon]

Just remember to wear pants.

[Destina Faroda]

I went outside, now I feel worse than before. 

And proof that my life sucks.  From here...

Life: 4.1
Mind: 5.2
Body: 5.9
Spirit: 5.4
Friends/Family: 2.4
Love: 1.4
Finance: 1.2

Analysis (from the site)

Life: Your life rating is a score of the sum total of your life, and accounts for how satisfied, successful, balanced, capable, valuable, and happy you are. The quiz attempts to put a number on the summation of all of these things, based on your answers. Your life score is on the low end. Making key changes to different aspects of your life will bring you greater fulfillment. Do not be discouraged. Seek help outside yourself if need be. There is always time to change, and change will bring many rewards.

Mind: Your mind rating is a score of your mind's clarity, ability, and health. Higher scores indicate an advancement in knowledge, clear and capable thinking, high mental health, and pure thought free of interference. Your mind score is not bad, but could be improved upon. Your mental health is not weak, but you are not achieving full mental clarity and function. Learn how to unclutter your mind. Keep learning, keep improving, continue moving forward.

Body: Your body rating measures your body's health, fitness, and general wellness. A healthy body contributes to a happy life, however many of us are lacking in this area. Your body score is fairly average, which means there is room for improvement. Keep a focus on your physical health. Protect your body as it is your most valuable physical asset. Nutrition, stress reduction, and exercise are key.

Spirit: Your spirit rating seeks to capture in a number that elusive quality which is found in your faith, your attitude, and your philosophy on life. A higher score indicates a greater sense of inner peace and balance. Your spirit score leaves room for improvement. Consider making a concerted effort to redefine your attitudes and focus your beliefs. Boosting your spirit will lead to greater life satisfaction.

Friends/Family: Your friends and family rating measures your relationships with those around you, and is based on how large, healthy, and dependable your social network is. You scored at the very low end for friends and family. This means that your social network is weak and not functioning. Consider re-establishing old bonds as you work on forging new ones. You will be greatly rewarded in return. Try using MeetUp.com to find people near you who share your interests.

Love: Your love rating is a measure of your current romantic situation. Sharing your heart with another person is one of life's most glorious, terrifying, rewarding experiences. Your love score is very low, indicating trouble. There is love out there for you. Seek the advice of wise people on how to go about finding it. Do not lose hope.

Finance: Your finance rating is a score that rates your current financial health and stability. Your finance score indicates that your financial situation is in disarray. This is an all-too-common problem. Do what you can to live within your means while improving your financial prospects for the future.

[ilpalazzo]

Life: 6.8
Mind:6.6
body:8.2
Spirit:4.2
friends/famly:7.3
Love:5
Finance:5.5

[Sin Ominous]

To Destina:

That's not too far off from mine, actually.

Though I may be changing the Love category soon.

Edit: Fix'd.

[ilpalazzo]

Wow big change in love.

[Destina Faroda]

How can you all cry broke and have such great financial scores?

[ilpalazzo]

Cookies

[Destina Faroda]

Must be some expensive cookies.

According to that test, it seems I need a bunch of rich and giving (in both love and money) people to befriend and mate with in order to boost the three lowest categories.  Does anyone know where I can find these people?

[ilpalazzo]

date a pornstar.

[Darkmoon]

Hell yeah. Pornstars make decent money. The female ones have better longevity in the industry too.

[Sin Ominous]

Well, first, Destina, you'll need to work on the self-confidence for a spell. Ain't nothing more attractive than someone with a less-than-morbid sense of self worth.

Then, get out there and get to know some people. That, or give eHarmony a whirl.

Now, as far as the money goes, while I may not have much money to work with, I make sacrifices on my purchases until I'm more financially sound. There, i have the one-up on my bro, who can't keep anything in his savings account to save his life.

[Destina Faroda]

I dunno about the pornstar tip.  On one hand, since they work in the sex industry, they will see sex more as their job and thus be reluctant to be intimate.  On the other hand, the only males ones I know of aren't exactly visually appealing.  Plus the fact is that the idea of makes me squeamish, as I am a big proponent of fidelity and by definition, a porn star will have to cheat as part of the job.

Spig, the people I have gotten to know want nothing to do with me.  Meetimg more people won't change that.  And it's not self-confidence, it's an accurate self-assesment.  If I were as pretty as Eva Longoria, then that'd be one thing. But I could give the Phantom of the Opera a run for his money.  Then again, the Phantom wouldn't be too bad, if I could get past that whole living in a sewer and ultra-possesive streak.

[Bloodreign]

Sometimes you gotta kick life in the ass, and take control, otherwise you'll die a very lonely shut-in.

[Jorge D. Fuentes]

Destina doesn't look bad at all.
She just lacks self-esteem.

I think at one point in our lives, we all could relate to that.

[Sin Ominous]

But it drives some of us insane when she discredits our giving a damn. I know that every time I care she chucks a "you won't" or "you'll betray me" or similar vernacular at me. What the hell am I supposed to say? I've been a more compassionate person after doing my own self-evaluation, and it saddens me when it's discredited.

[Helena]

maybe the person just doesn't trust you too well. Trust is a big issue that most friends have. Morely when trust is brought up sometimes the friends all become enemies and turn on another. Everyone has their own way of thinking, thus trust is hard to develop especially when everyone's opinions are different.

[Jorge D. Fuentes]

I've known Destina for four years and she still says that to me.
Spig, you've a while to go, heh heh.

[Sin Ominous]

Oh wow, I had no idea. 

[Jorge D. Fuentes]

Take heart, man!  She's really cool to talk to, when she's not feeling down.
Especially about Mega Man and stuff. 

[Darkmoon]

Yeah, and he only started talkin to Nang after I talked to her for a year and found out she was a fan of his midis and sprites. AND she still says that to me sometimes too...

Not as often as she used to though, so I take that as progress.

[Destina Faroda]

Well, the thing is that you all say that you care, but when I ask you to show it, you balk at the requests, because you really don't care.  So how am I to trust someone who I know isn't deeply devoted or dependent upon me?

[Sin Ominous]

Because what you do ask of us is a bit much. Like a servant to a master. And if any of us are not in absolute tandem with your beliefs, we're cast down like scum outright, and given the anti-trust treatment.

This ain't a dictatorship. Caring doesn't require being actionable. There is just basic consoling and being an ear or shoulder if you need to vent or cry.

And for pete's sake, on various issues, the concepts don't always have to be black or white. What about the balance of gray?

[Destina Faroda]

That last post doesn't sound very compassionate.  And I don't require you feel the same way I do about everything, but I would like people who felt the same way I do about at least one thing that I think is important.  It seems though that there's a universal disagreement and pressure from you all for me to be in step with you.

If you want me to trust you, show me that you can be a trustworthy person.  I can't trust  anyone who doesn't care enough about me to let me control them as much as he or she control me.  If you can't do this, then that's fine, but don't act like you want to me to believe in you one minute then condescend to me in the next.

[Darkmoon]

Nang, this seems to be the point that just about anyone in their right mind is going to say "no, I don't think I want to do that." I mean, unless they are a submissive person by nature, they would say no to that.

Actually, now that I think about it, in all honesty what it sounds like you need is a sub. O_o

[Helena]

wow...

That last post doesn't sound very compassionate. And I don't require you feel the same way I do about everything, but I would like people who felt the same way I do about at least one thing that I think is important. It seems though that there's a universal disagreement and pressure from you all for me to be in step with you.

If you want me to trust you, show me that you can be a trustworthy person. I can't trust anyone who doesn't care enough about me to let me control them as much as he or she control me. If you can't do this, then that's fine, but don't act like you want to me to believe in you one minute then condescend to me in the next.

This actually makes sense to me. I have a lot of people who like controlling me for their own benefits. Now as for trust, I don't know how a person could tell if people are trustworthy or not. I don't trust many people myself. And I agree with Destina in this right now. You can't change acts.

[Sin Ominous]

When I wanted to befriend you, Dest, my ultimate goal was not to be controlled by you.

I mean, my best friend is Sephy, but if you think that implies that I have the right or reason to control her, then maybe you need to need another look at that view. True friends are not controlling, but just look out for each other.

[Damaris]

wait a second, Jorge has seen Destina's picture?!  Lucky bastard.  I've known her longer than all of you...

:p