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Outskirts => The Villa => Topic started by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 05:18:54 PM

Title: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 05:18:54 PM
What's going on:

I have this ex-girlfriend that keeps calling me everyday...
she says stuffs like ''i still love you'' and similar stuff...
when it's not me who answers the phone she hangs up the phone in someone's face, making people at my house angry...

My thing:

i am alone, i had a case with an older woman, but it didn't go too far...and i hate being alone...i have few friends (small city, about 10.000 habitants) wich makes like only a group of us around the 20's...and lots of them have GF's, making going out at night dificult... (i don't like to hang around alone)

The Ex history:

We broke up because friends of mine usually used to come at me saying they saw her in some place...or in someone's car...
but i actually never saw anything...so, in doubt, i broke up with her...

Conclusion:

Should i give her a chance?another saturday night posting will mostly kill me... :S
but mama is against, she doesn't like her either...
mama and bro are on another city this weekend i have the house just for myself...it would be an awesome chance to have some s** you know...after all, it's been a while... :mowdizzy
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Aridas on September 23, 2006, 05:23:06 PM
...weren't you busy being rejected by someone?
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 05:26:10 PM
holy moley...

(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v390/raphael9999/FinalFantasyII-TheNon-CheeseballEdi.png)

good question cain...
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Aridas on September 23, 2006, 05:31:30 PM
Seriously. How can you be dealing with two opposite problems?
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 05:40:40 PM
do you mean that problem i made a topic about, like, weeks ago?
i got over it...i think i was so deeply emotioned about that girl cause i am alone...i was up to clear up my mind about my feelings for her...man, being alone sux... :[
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Mew Mew Renee on September 23, 2006, 05:46:44 PM
I think you should give her another chance :januscat :bunny  :mowwink :mowhappy
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Aridas on September 23, 2006, 05:47:59 PM
Hey. Being alone is no problem. You just have to learn to tolerate that. Well then... About this new girl then, I think you're taking action way too soon if you don't have any real proof something's going on. That might turn out to be a mistake, it may not. I don't know.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 05:56:38 PM
but i live in a small city...what kind of respect will i have for being cheated?
by the other hand i shouldn't bother to what people say...i'm lost...
i don't think i can trust her again...
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Mew Mew Renee on September 23, 2006, 06:08:32 PM
Why? :januscat :bunny :mowwink :mowhappy :mowmeep
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 06:12:07 PM
well, i dunno...
first of all, the first time we got together, she had a bf, wich she said she didn't love...i mean...she cheated on him right?what makes her unable to do that to myself if a day or another we fight or she just get a bad mood or anything...you understand me mewmew?
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Mew Mew Renee on September 23, 2006, 06:14:33 PM
Ummm.... sort of :januscat :bunny :mowwink :mowhappy :mowmeep
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: llearch n'n'daCorna on September 23, 2006, 06:16:36 PM
Who do you care more about the thoughts of, Leafar? The random strangers who you may or may not meet? Or the girl you're in bed with?

If it's not the latter, you're in bed with the wrong girl.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: xHaZxMaTx on September 23, 2006, 06:17:28 PM
QuoteSince everyone is showing their problems...
I think half of these threads that you mention about people complaining about problems are yours.

Did that make sense, my brain isn't working too well right now.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 06:20:16 PM
llearch tell me something...

i am good discovering msn passwords...that secret question thing is easy to guess when you know the person...so i was able to get her password...
and what do i find? tons of mails of those relationships sites, you know, and her msn is like 98% men...

the question:

plus that to what people say...WOULDN'T YOU BE LIKE, AT LEAST, SUSPICIOUS?
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Suwako on September 23, 2006, 06:24:58 PM
Well this may sound a little hard but maybe you should confront her with your suspicions? At least then she will either have to tell the truth or lie straight in your face. I know it isn't great to experience but certainty is worth something.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 06:28:34 PM
great...if i had a crystal ball to tell me when people are saying lies i would be the richest man on earth...
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: llearch n'n'daCorna on September 23, 2006, 06:29:19 PM
Trust is key. If you can't trust, how can you be trusted?

.. and I wasn't speaking specifically of *this* girl, I was speaking in general terms - any girl you go out with, her thoughts should be the most important, and everyone else can go hang.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Suwako on September 23, 2006, 06:31:53 PM
Quote from: llearch n'n'daCorna on September 23, 2006, 06:29:19 PM
Trust is key. If you can't trust, how can you be trusted?

.. and I wasn't speaking specifically of *this* girl, I was speaking in general terms - any girl you go out with, her thoughts should be the most important, and everyone else can go hang.


Have to agree with llearch here.
I would lie to add that most people aren't born good liars leafar. it's hard to lie to someone about something that important.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 06:34:33 PM
well...that's a thing i must think hard...
btw, she called, so as an impulse i invited her here so we can talk...
if i disappear for a while it's because i am talking, k?
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Aridas on September 23, 2006, 06:52:36 PM
Quote from: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 06:20:16 PMand what do i find? tons of mails of those relationships sites, you know, and her msn is like 98% men...
Breaking into peoples' accounts? NOT cool in any case.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: llearch n'n'daCorna on September 23, 2006, 06:56:04 PM
*agrees with Aridas*
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: xHaZxMaTx on September 23, 2006, 06:57:20 PM
Why would you even do that? :|
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 07:02:09 PM
well...well...i know, but...but... :B
wouldn't you do it?it's just like, open your gf room while she isn't on...big deal, nothing like i would do something bad to her...
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Dakata on September 23, 2006, 07:11:43 PM
Dude, respect her privacy. D: That's not cool at all.

How would you feel if someone went into -your- email-account and looked at all of your stuff? D:
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Aridas on September 23, 2006, 07:31:38 PM
don't compare it to a room, compare it to a LOCKED MAILBOX. You're vandalizing someone's mailbox.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 07:44:28 PM
thanks.... :(
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Netami on September 23, 2006, 07:51:55 PM
Stick it in the pooper.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: xHaZxMaTx on September 23, 2006, 07:57:51 PM
Quote from: Dakata on September 23, 2006, 07:11:43 PM
Dude, respect her privacy. D: That's not cool at all.
Not to mention illegal.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 08:43:32 PM
Quote from: Netami on September 23, 2006, 07:51:55 PM
Stick it in the pooper.

NO lol

that's all the help you guys offer?
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Netami on September 23, 2006, 08:52:45 PM
Every relationship is different. There are a few broad pointers (like respecting her privacy) but for the most part there's nothing out there that will 100% always work for you. You just have to figure it out with the other person. One paramount ideal is to COMMUNICATE. Speak with her and describe your feelings to the fullest. Listen to her side as well. If you can't compromise, then you must simply let it go. Or at least that's what people always say.
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Leafar on September 23, 2006, 10:20:48 PM
btw, she just was here, we talked about lots of things...
well, i must agree with you in many things...
yes, i don't feel like a compromise right now in my life...and that's what she wants, so...
Title: Re: Since everyone is showing their problems... Warning: Mature Talking
Post by: Mew Mew Renee on October 03, 2006, 03:19:39 PM
so what? :januscat